Nazar choorana?

How do you feel when somebody you think you have seen somewhere, or you have interacted before, looks at you and then realizing that you are looking into his/her eyes looks some where else – “Nazar choorana” ? my first few thoughts – wrong identity ? where did I see the person last ? did I hurt the person anytime ? did anything unpleasant or embarrassing happen ? its usually negative thoughts …

Some days back after coming back from work, I took Ezekiel and went out to buy milk , I was smiling at Ezekiel and when I looked up I saw a familiar face , I still had the smile on my face … and I realized the familiar face (maybe in his late 40s early 50s ) realizing that I have seen him changed his line of sight … .. since its just about an year in this locality and am just getting use to faces … I was not sure if the person is someone near our neighborhood or someone from other place … so I started flipping albums of my memory … and yes I saw him …. Let me call him Mr X (I don’t know his name )

It was 2 weeks back, we had come back from church , had lunch and at around 3:30 pm Anil took Esther for choir singing , I stayed back with Ezekiel and was feeding him … and the power went .. its usual some “patta” (dried coconut leaf) would have fallen on the electrical line … as usual heard the KSEB jeep coming , I didn’t move … there were some noise , very usual – transformer is nearby , and then suddenly I heard “Thud -Thud “ sound … some where near our compound wall … I had kept the our main door open … I go out and see 1 man again mid 40’s is standing on our compound wall and is cutting branches ofr only tree in our compound - “Mango Tree” which is full of mangoes … I am actually shocked to say anything , and I see Anil coming back .. Anil also is little surprised and asks me if anybody told me anything … I said “No” … so Anil asks , whats happening … the guy along with another “Karnavar” (Old man who behaves like Head of the community – who is retired , some say sacked from KSEB guy living nearby) says “ branches touching electrical line so cutting !” Anil who is very particular about such things and who keeps the tree trim knowing the frequent power cut problems , looks up and sees the fall of first branch – nowhere near electrical line and which has maximum mangoes fall … too shocked … he asks did you ask anybody at home before cutting ? - answer “nobody was home “ – I look at them with baby in my hand … Anil losses his patience and kind of blasts them … and this Mr X comes from a nearby lane and starts abusing Anil – his argument “We don’t understand the problem of powercut – we have inverters so we don’t care when the power goes – we are insensitive to others need – and that he had also cut his coconut tree sometime back” -- Fact the “Patta” which keeps falling now and then, that coconut tree is still standing tall –

Mangoes in our mango tree ...

The Mango tree which was cut had lot of Mangoes and gave shade to passersby –Esther was waiting for mangoes to ripe – I used to distract Ezekiel showing little birds which chirp a lot in the evening - we had taken care of Our tree after shifting to the house – pesticide, watering, and trimming – its was the first time it had so many mangoes in the month of January (that’s what our neighbors’ told us) ….

The guy who cut the tree realizes that he has made mistake – tries to talk it out with Anil … and I know Anil’s pain .. lot of people suddenly come and they take all the mangoes – one of our neighbor Peter tries to sympathize and gives Anil two mangoes .. Anil just throws it off .. and he updates his FB status with the snap of mangoes we had put last month - “Old Memories”

And I realize Mr X who did not know us , assumed so many things about us just because we have little bigger house .. and he took out his frustration (Kann Kaddi) on us when he got opportunity … No wonder now he cannot look at me …. – and yes I have to accept sometime people just cant stand good things in others compound – “Neighbors’ envy …. Owners Pride” I hope that I can make my kids understand this prayer

Humko mann ki shakti dena,Mann vijay kare….

Dusro ki jai se pehle,Khud ko jai karein….

Bhed bhaav apne dil se, Saaf kar sakein….

Doston/Dusuro se bhul ho to,Maaf kar sakein ...

Jhoot se bache rahein,Sach ka dum bharein….

Dusro ki jai se pehle,Khud ko jai karein….

Muskile pade to hum pe,Itna karm kar….

Saath de tu dharm ka,Chalenge dharm par….

Khud pe hosla rahe,Badi se na darein…

Dusro ki jai se pehle,Khud ko jai karein….