Yeh Hosla

Watched Hindi movie - Kahaani – Good movie – Good story , good performances. The protagonist – Pregnant women – looking for her missing husband – background Durga Puja season in Calcutta. In one of my earlier post I had mentioned something about being feminine and being strong and I quote “Now when I think of being feminine and not being weak I think of all the beautiful Durga Idols which we get to see during Durga Puja - and realize Women can be Attractive and audacious too -- Bold and beautiful ! :)” I felt the movie was just about what I mentioned in my post :) There is one dialogue in the movie “Pregnant women is not scared of anything “ though many will not agree , but I agree pregnant woman is not scared of anything … the fact that there is another life within her makes her so strong , so determined … Vidya balan portrayed it really well … 

Few weeks back while going for evening walk with Ezekiel, one lady passing by stopped and asked me , “ Mol veedu maariyo ? Eppam pattom side kanaara illelo” (Have you shifted your house, not to be seen at Pattom locality ) , I smiled at her giving an expression do I know her – understanding my expression , she continued that she used to see me very regularly going for early morning walks when I was pregnant with Ezekiel and she admired me for being so regular for walks even in my 9th months and she used to watch me from her house .. .. She said she was happy to see me again after almost 1 year , walking with my baby … and that she tells her daughter about me :) … the fact was I was doing all my work at home and office just like any other day, I was taking public transport to commute, was working till a day before the delivery – was walking around in office with bottle of water wherever I went – and during those days many people complimented me for my energy (to argue/make my point when I didn’t agree to something/playing TT and glowing skin :D – My point was pregnancy is not a disease - and yes the feeling of having a life within you – changes you :) 

April 2004 – I was pregnant with Esther early second trimester , one evening we went out for the Premier of the movie “ Passion of Christ” which was meant for Media , after movie had dinner out and by midnight we crashed . Next day morning Anil could not get up , he had severe Back pain , initially I thought it was his regular backache episode, but realized this time it was something serious, he just could not get up , and I could see the pain and worry on his face .. I called an Auto somehow managed to support him and we went to St, John’s Hospital , which was around 2-3 kms from our home and where I was going for my check ups. Anil was in no position to walk , took a wheelchair and pushed him to the Orthopedic ward - One look and Dr Rajgopalan , said Slip Disc - I didn’t know what was that … he did some tests on Anil’s reflexes and asked us to check with Neurologist – pushed him to Neurology ward, there doc said seems like some “panga” with one of Anil’s nerve better get MRI scan done … this can happen only the next day … Next day same set of activities auto, wheelchair , MRI scan room, result massive hemorrhage of one of his disc … compressing one of his nerve , effecting his reflexes of left leg … best option surgery at the earliest and 4-6 months rest … then Dr Rajgopal realized that I was pregnant and suggested Anil to take proper complete rest for few days that is not get up from bed for 5 days and come again for a check up -- we decided we wont call up parents unless it is inevitable . and I said I am fine with that , will manage - next 5 days Anil took rest and I went with reports for second opinion .. Hosmat … there doc saw the report , saw me pregnant and then explained me what was wrong and that surgery was the best option .. I almost broke down … gathered all my courage and said will get back … after 5 days when we went for check up again at St Johns , Dr Rajgopal said there was very slight improvement in Anils Left leg reflexes and if Anil takes 2-3 months good rest surgery might be avoided … some hope … and next 3 months Anil took rest , I had already taken break from professional work , so I had to manage things outside - - all walking around ,as Auto was not safe option , bad road and bad drivers .. .. all my checkups, walk 3 km up 3 km down , all shopping within 1-2 kms, picking up cousin’s son from Madiwala – in my M80 in my 6th month (I could kick start and ride M80 till 7th month :)) – after 3 months rest Anil was in position to walk around with his back support belt .. .. and I realized I have to get back to work once baby comes – I got myself enrolled for training - Raheja Arcade … around 3-4 kms -- walk and KSRTC bus route no.163 - by this time I looked heavily pregnant .. but I was fine rather determined … I could feel the concerned looks of people around – but end of my 9 months – Anil was getting much better, he was there with me for the final scan – Baby weight in Sacn 3.4 kgs , While walking back I asked Anil does he feel embarrassed to walk with me then heavily pregnant – he took my hands in his and said – “I feel so proud “ :) few days later Esther happened without much issues, Anil was with me all the time in hospital and took us back home, and Surgery was not required for Anil – though we had to do few changes in his working style :) 

Next time you see a pregnant Women – Smile at her :)